And a youth said,

‘Speak to us of Friendship!’

And he answered, saying:

Your friend is your needs answered.

He is your field which you sow with love

and reap with thanksgiving.


And he is your board and your fireside.

For you come to him with your hunger,

and you seek him for peace.


When your friend speaks his mind you fear

not the “nay” in your own mind,

nor do you withhold the “ay”.

And when he is silent your heart ceases

not to listen to his heart;

For without words, in friendship, all thoughts,

all desires, all expectations are born and shared,

with joy that is unacclaimed.

When you part from your friend, you grieve not;

For that which you love most

in him may be clearer in his absence,

as the mountain to the climber

is clearer from the plain.


And let there be no purpose in friendship

save the deepening of the spirit.

For love that seeks aught but the disclosure

of its own mystery is not love but a net cast forth:

and only the unprofitable is caught.


And let your best be for your friend

that you should seek him with hours to kill?

Seek him always with hours to live.

For it is his to fill your need,

but not your emptiness.

And in the sweetness of friendship

let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures.

For in the dew of little things

the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.


Kahlil Gibran (1883 – 1931)